<![CDATA[BAM Community - BAM Blog]]>Tue, 15 Jan 2019 19:34:11 +1100Weebly<![CDATA[Christmas... Really??]]>Sun, 16 Dec 2018 21:59:39 GMThttp://bamcommunity.com.au/bamcommunitycomau-766103/christmas-reallyEnd of Year Madness 
Is it the moon?? Or have we all gone mad?
This time of year is busy – busy for business, busy for community, busy for people. I am sure it does not matter what religious or spiritual practices a person pledges, this is just a busy time of year. And sometimes we get caught up in the madness that we forget to acknowledge the journey we have been on. We forget how strong we truly are and what we have achieved. So now is the time to celebrate the year that has gone to allow purposeful planning for the year ahead.

Water is fluid, soft and yielding. But water will wear away rock, which is rigid and cannot yield. As a rule, whatever is rigid, soft and yielding will overcome whatever is rigid and hard. This is another paradox: what is soft is strong.”   Lao Tzu Picture


Before we can move forward, we need to look back.
How has 2018 been you? For your business? What have you achieved? What have you enjoyed? Pat yourself on the back and acknowledge the lessons and the learnings.
Write them down. It is time to be your own cheer squad. It is time to remember what you and your team has achieved both in business and in life. Make a list of eleven of your best achievements of 2018. Then write down how you have celebrated these successes – or how you plan on celebrating. Don’t be shy, be outstanding. Sing your own praises. AND SHARE THEM! Tell us what you have achieved!
The celebration – what you did/ are going to do to celebrate












This is a very important part of the planning process. It is essential to identify the success that has already been achieved before planning to up the impact. It is also important to remember that people run businesses so celebrate the people. Celebrate the you.

This is not a new practice. The “Christmas Bonus” or “Christmas Party” has been a way for businesses to celebrate the achievements of the business with the workers and the community who has support its success.

This celebration cements a culture of success.

The foundation is now laid. You are an achiever. You are now free to work with the celebration of success to inspire plans for 2019. After the celebration of success is the time to plan further fantastic goals and dreams. 

Now is the time to get creative. 


 The audit is done.

The list of achievements is complete. So, where to from here?

How can you build on from 2018? What can you do better? What are the lessons? What did not work and needs to be retired? What needs to be repeated? What can you do differently to increase value?

Dream big – have an over-arching big, bold, brash goal. Be audacious, be creative.

Start from the top, and then work down. How can this big, bold, brash goal be broken down into workable steps? What will you see as you are on the path to your success? What is the timeline? How are you going to look after the person / the people / the you to make sure the team is flourishing and not floundering? Have you thought about self-care? 

I have another chart for you…

2019 success planning

2019 GOAL:
                                                         Steps                                                         celebration








Mission and Vision

With all this reflecting, it is important to revisit your purpose for doing what you are doing. Do your mission and you vision still align with the challenges and changes of 2018? 

Be clear on why you do what you do and have a vision of where you will be. 

Does your mission and your vision speak to the people you serve? Is it clear? Does it speak to you?

I wish you love , health, wealth and happiness for 2019. Celebrate your wins, your lessons and learnings. Celebration and self-care are important aspects of achieving your goals. 

At the end of a race, we celebrate. 

It is important way to acknowledge the time and effort you have invested. It also helps measure what has worked and what needs to be improved.

This lays a firm foundation to build success into 2019. 

CELEBRATE, and then create.

PHOTO CREDIT: Me - Queenstown, New Zealand
<![CDATA[December 11th, 2018]]>Mon, 10 Dec 2018 19:33:20 GMThttp://bamcommunity.com.au/bamcommunitycomau-766103/december-11th-2018
I have been thinking about thinking! 
I am not going mad during this “silly season” – thinking about thinking is actually a thing!
So, let me ask you – what is your thinking like? Are you a naively optimistic type person or are you a doom and gloomier? Or, maybe somewhere in between?
According to a quick google – “thinking” can be a noun (a name word) or an adjective (a describing word).
As a noun, thinking is “the process of considering or reasoning about something.” For example, “the team has some thinking to do before the match".
As anadjective,thinking is“using thought or rational judgement; intelligent”.
For example, "She is a thinking woman".
Words that have a similar meaning are called synonyms. Synonyms for “thinking” could include intelligent, sensible, reasonable, rational, and reasoning.
Therefore, thinking about your thinking is a rational, sensible and intelligent thing to do!
I have been working with students in a busy workplace. There are always challenges in workplaces. Time management, person centred focus (customer focus), the technical knowledge specific to a particular workplace, and people. It is crucial that the student masters their thoughts. 
In order to be able to succeed in stressful situations, such as a new workplace, we must be able to manage executive functions such as organisation, planning to follow through on tasks. We must be able to think about how we approach the day? We must think about our thinking.
If you don’t challenge thinking, we won’t change and we won’t grow. Thinking about thinking requires us to be vulnerable. To be vulnerable we must be brave. We must be courageous. 
Thinking about thinking is a powerful process. It can change the way you see the world around you. AND as Dr Wayne Dyer says, “when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”.
Dr Dyer talks about Self–Defeating ThinkingHabits.  
He challenges his clients to examine their own thinking. Here is an example.
Let’s say I am working with you and I can get you to examine the idea or question – what would your life look like if you couldn’t think that thought? Everyone has the same conclusion. When I have really pushed them to the limit with that question, the answer is I would be free. I would be free. Perhaps for the first time. I would be free. And being free… what could be any better than that?
Wayne Dyer
This is called “METACOGNITION”. Metacognition is an awareness and understanding of one's own thought processes.
Google says that Metacognition is "cognition about cognition", "thinking about thinking", "knowing about knowing", becoming "aware of one's awareness" and higher-order thinking skills. The term comes from the root word meta, meaning "beyond".
Metacognitive knowledge can be broken down into three categories:
  • Person variables: Recognised strengths and weaknesses in learning and processing information.
  • Task variables: What you know or can figure out about the task and the processing demands required to complete the task—for example, knowledge that it will take more time to read, comprehend, and remember a technical article than it will a similar-length passage from a novel.
  • Strategy variables: The strategies a person has “at the ready” to apply in a flexible way to successfully accomplish a task; for example, knowing how to activate prior knowledge before reading a technical article, using a glossary to look up unfamiliar words, or recognizing that sometimes one has to reread a paragraph several times before it makes sense.
Those of us who can demonstrate a wide variety of metacognitive skills usually perform better on exams and complete work more efficiently. Metacognitive skills enable us to use the right tool for the job and modify learning strategies as needed. Metacognition helps identify blocks to learning and empower us to change tools or strategies to ensure goal attainment. 
Metacognition plays a critical role in successful learning. It is imperative that teachers help learners develop metacognitively.
Thinking about your thinking is a process. Basically, there are three steps.
These are:
  • Develop a plan before approaching a task, such as reading for comprehension or solving a math problem.
QUESTION what needs to be achieved and what are the steps that are going to get you to your goal.
  • Monitor their understanding; use “fix-up” strategies when meaning breaks down.
QUESTION how you are proceeding? Is there anything that can be achieved by doing things differently? What do you need to learn? How can you achieve your goal? Are you on track?
  • Evaluate their thinking after completing the task.
QUESTION how well you have achieved what you intended to achieve? How could you have done things differently? What could you improve on next time?
(Fogarty, R. (1994). How to teach for metacognition. Palatine, IL: IRI/Skylight Publishing.)
With the silly season madness and mayhem around the corner (or maybe it is already here!!) it is important to slow down and take a breath. THINK. Be brave enough to be vulnerable. Think about it. Be strong and grounded and think about moving forward.
 “Don’t believe everything you think.”   Byron Catie
<![CDATA[Social Change]]>Sun, 02 Dec 2018 02:22:27 GMThttp://bamcommunity.com.au/bamcommunitycomau-766103/social-changeMy relationships are fearless. (MY AFFIRMATION FOR THIS POST).

What a busy year! 30 days until the NEW YEAR.

My business has grown, but more importantly I have grown too. 

I have had to face many things about myself that I did not want to face. I have had to confront many fears – personal and professional. I have had to ask for help. I have had to keep still at times too. I have had to move through my fear. I have had to let go of my control.

​I have had help though and am grateful for the fearless friends I have. THANK YOU.
here to edit.
This artwork is a composition from my talented daughter.

My children trigger me. My children, my girls, my babies are now beautiful young women. I celebrate them. I celebrate their beauty.

On a recent holiday, I was triggered. Men stop us in the street to talk with and ask for telephone numbers. Men call out from pubs to them. Men turn their heads after they have walked by. I was extremely uncomfortable. I was unprepared and felt like I have not prepared them for this part of their life.
These experiences are eye opening and superficially harmless. My jadedness has developed from conversations with family and friends upon our return.

I am still having conversations with men who suggest that women need to be mindful of the clothes they wear and the way they conduct themselves. I have heard stories of relationships that have broken down because the male partner has strayed ... but the women with whom he “strayed with” was “that type” of women so the man could not be held accountable for his actions!

I have even been lectured about the abuse that women inflict on men. YES this happens, HOWEVER the statistics are scary. 

  • 17% of women and 4% of men experienced sexual assault since the age of 15 (Australian Bureau of Statistics - Personal Safety Survey, 2012)
  • 20.6% of women and 10.5% of men reported non-penetrative childhood sexual abuse by the age of 16 and that 7.9% of women and 7.5% of men reported penetrative childhood sexual abuse by the age 16 years. (Mamun, Lawlor, O’Calloghan, Bor, Williams. & Najman, 2007 Queensland University study)
  • 93% of offenders are male(Australian Bureau of Statistics - Recorded Crime - Offenders, 2013-14)
  • 1 in 6 reports of rape and less than 1 in 7 reports of incest or sexual penetration of a child result in prosecution (Sexual Offences: Law & Procedure Final Report, Victorian Law Reform Commission, 2004)
  • Only about 17% of reported sexual offences result in a conviction, a figure consistent with data from other States and overseas. (Queensland Crime and Misconduct Commission, 2003)
  • 62% of women and 8% of men experienced their most recent incident of physical assault by a male in their home(Australian Bureau of Statistics - Personal Safety Survey, 2012)
  • 17% of women and 5% of men had experienced violence by a partner since the age of 15 (Australian Bureau of Statistics - Personal Safety Survey, 2012)
  • 25% of women and 14% of men have experienced emotional abuse by a partner since the age of 15. (Australian Bureau of Statistics - Emotional Abuse, 2014)
  • 19% of women and 8% of men have experienced an episode of stalking during their lifetime (Australian Bureau of Statistics - Emotional Abuse, 2014)
  • An estimated 27% of children who are in homes where violence was being experienced by a current partner had witnessed the violence (Australian Bureau of Statistics - Personal Safety Survey, 2006
  • Girls between the ages of 10 and 14 were the greatest proportion of victim/survivors of sexual violence (A/C based on Police Data).
  • Young women between 15 and 24 years were the second largest category (A/C based on Police Data).
  • Older women experience violence and abuse at higher rates compared to older men (Quadara 2007).

Violence against women and their children cost the Australian economy $13.6 billion. (Australian Bureau of Statistics - Defining the Data Challenge for Family, Domestic and Sexual Violence, 2013)



We must be re-educated. Victim blaming is ignorant. It is wrong.

WE must accept responsibility. We must be accountable. WE must SUPPORT EACH OTHER!

A friend introduced me to Catherine Marroitt’s story. It has left me with a passion to change the way we think as a society. What is socially acceptable before is no longer. 

THIS VIDEO IS A MUST WATCH for men and women alike.

Share it with your family, your friends, your colleagues. HAVE THE CONVERSATION NOW.


Am I jaded? I would say so.

I found this definition of Jaded in the urban dictionary. I resonated with it.
“A state of disillusionmentand sadness. You see through everything and have no illusions about what is true. So many negative things have happened that it becomes difficult to stay positiveabout what once gave you hope and joy. Sometimes you might think there's hope, but then more negative things happen in the aspect you are jadedin, and you become more jaded. This can be felt in many different aspects: Love, friendship, politics, trust, music, objects, etc.

Actions, people, places and things can all leave you jaded.”

I researched the etymology of the word jaded. Interestingly the word “JADED” is French, but comes from the obsolete Spanish (piedra de laijada. This word literally means “loin stone” ultimately from Latin ilia, plural, flanks; from the belief that jade cures renal colic. I am jaded. I am pissed off!

I have not written this to share a sob story. This is not a sob story. It is more than that. This is a sad state of affair. It is worth crying over and hanging our societal head in shame.  The difference between a sob and a sob story is that with a sob story we do not change the story. With a sob, we cry and then we fight. We need to work together to build an authentic and meaningful society that is safe. We need to build fearless relationships and social change.

<![CDATA[Life Stings Sometimes]]>Sun, 25 Nov 2018 19:52:53 GMThttp://bamcommunity.com.au/bamcommunitycomau-766103/life-stings-sometimes

A few years ago, we were visiting friends on their property just out of town. My girls and I had been away for the weekend camping. We were relaxed and happy.
Then, from the paddock, I heard the most heart piercing noise. It was a sound I had not heard before. The sound was familiar but also something I had never heard before.
It was my daughter.
She had disturbed a wasp nest. By the time I got to her she was in immense pain and her face was already swelling. AND she was in pain.
Sometimes life stings. But that is the lesson.
I love this time of year. I love planning for Christmas and for gatherings. I love organising and participating in Christmas parties. I love the Australian summer – but we have to be aware too that the Aussie summer brings ticks and snakes and spiders. AND WASPS.
This time of year is busy. 
There are a lot of added pressures for everyone. 
This time of year is also tough for many people. I have always been amazed at how busy an Emergency Department is during this time of year – especially on Christmas Day. We all feel the energy at this time of year – I am not sure if it is the weather changing or something else. But there definitely are different pressures.
SO – just a gentle reminder that the people you work with and the people you work for are feeling it too! 
Plan how you are going to plan to succeed the silly season.
Think about these five simple tips
Sleep well – you need to recharge Eat healthy, stay well – avoid the sugar and heavy foods Exercise daily – walk outside and appreciate the world around you. Be conscious that those around you may be strugglingly with a few stings. Stay away from wasp nests (and snakes and redback spiders) – stay aware of what is happening around you and within you.  
Some ideas for planning
Don’t just plan for what you want, plan for what’s ideal.
Don’t just imagine better, imagine paradise.
Don’t just dream of happiness, dream of ecstasy.
In just one month, I will be sitting back saying “Well, that was Christmas, done and dusted!”.
Is 2018 slowing down for you – or speeding up?
Are you navigating the speed bumps?
What are your survival tips??
I am inviting you to join our REDinV8 in 2018 program. This is a 30 day program that will support you through winding up the 2018 work year, and hold your hand through the onslaught of relatives, gift giving and enforced celebrations. 
We meet online once a week and walk through a structured program for 5 meetings. You will encounter a circle of support that enables you to thrive this silly season and begin to plan for success in 2019. This is an important investment in you so you can give with ease to those who need it in your life. 

<![CDATA[Master of Service]]>Mon, 19 Nov 2018 19:28:44 GMThttp://bamcommunity.com.au/bamcommunitycomau-766103/master-of-service
I recently holidayed in Queenstown, New Zealand.
This was a wander-lusty and eyes-wide-open experience. I think the place is magic. Literally.
Queenstown, New Zealand is a place all about taking risks, living on the edge and pushing life just as far as it will go. There are big mountains, big lakes, big fun. There is an endless sea of opportunity to journey fun and excitement. Horizons cease to exist – there are no limits.
I might be exaggerating a little, but you get the point. 
Queenstown is a commercially driven town. It is a town whose business is service. Service comes at a price for the consumer but received with gratitude and grace. It is an interesting place.
The permanent population of Queenstown was reported to be around 16000 people. Compare this to the number of visitors – 22000 visitors during the off season and over 44000 visitors during the snow season (according to the Captain of the Million Dollar Cruise around the lake).
This means that there are always more visitors and locals. The town exists to serve. And service is what they sell – but it is not what they market.
My interest is in building authentic and meaningful community. BAM Community Pty Ltd. BAM Business goal is in leading and launching change and community evolution. BAM collaboratively builds independence within a circle of support that is unified by a common vision.  BAM builds excellence through sustainable practice and personal growth. We apply these goals in Education, care and health and community sectors.
Queenstown was the perfect study area. Queenstown is by nature a co-independent housing community that services the community perfectly.
How is Queenstown a Master of Service?
    They have a strategy – the businesses in town have a widened perception about what they think is possible. The airlines have sales, this brings in the consumers who are serviced by transport options, food, shopping, entertainment and accommodation options. Everything is available and accessible. People talk to you, and about what you are doing. People offer you options to ensure your needs are met and you get a little more. Service providers are hospitable and inviting. They care. It is their job.
  1. FUN
Fun is foundational. People enjoy their job, people are enjoying their holiday. The lens of laughter and fun experiences is how the world in Queenstown is experienced. There is not just one type of fun – it is multifactorial – catering for a variety of people and needs – food, fast boats, slow boats, mountain bikes, walks, runs, driving, bungy, skydiving, coffee and cake, beer.
Community living is essential. Guests live in small accommodation units with shared meal time experiences. Consumers are forced to engage with other consumers. We are forced to chat and exchange experiences. We have to connect with others. We have to care about what others are doing for the day or what they have done. This makes us think about what we have done. We soak up the experience of Queenstown through connection in community. The environment is built to enable people to meet, share and enjoy
This community environment enables empathy. Even when the lines are long, and the days have been tiring the service operators are able to smile and empathise. They say, “sorry for the wait”. The service operators maintained the professionalism and stayed focused on their role to ensure safety but also took the time to apologised for the wait. They valued the consumers time. They made us feel valued. Easy. Simple. Effective. THANK YOU.
  1. TEACH
Teach what you know is an invaluable part of service. Advice and mentoring are part of the Queenstown experience. Visitors were connected with the history of the area. We were exposed to the journeys of the local elders. We were encouraged to soak up their journey.
WE were taught about the natural environment, the services that are available, the how to’s, the what if’s, the ice cream, the food, the history, the geography, the possibilities. We were valued and informed.
Whether you are a deeply religious or spiritual person – or not, there is something about Queenstown that connects you to a world greater than yourself. There is a feeling, an energy, that to me, was tangible. I loved it. I soaked it up. I couldn’t really explain it.
A BAM Community is created by building authentic and meaningful community. It is a model of co-independent housing where the community develops a strategy to grow and evolve that is right for the community. It embraces our sense of fun through engagement and community. People live together, caring for each other. We master empathy for ourselves and others. We share advice and mentor one another. We connect to the higher realms and respect the humanness of spirit without having to explain.
My goal now is to build BAM Communities here.

<![CDATA[Pure Positive Re-inspired Vocational Education]]>Sun, 14 Oct 2018 01:38:37 GMThttp://bamcommunity.com.au/bamcommunitycomau-766103/pure-positive-re-inspired-vocational-education
I recently facilitated a Vocational Education and Training (VET) Sector workshop in COFFS HARBOUR NSW through BAM Community Pty Ltd. What an amazing experience. The opportunity to network with purely positive and passionate professionals is always powerful.
It was an opportunity to reflect on the Australian VET Sector. A sector that has undergone tremendous change and tumultuous scrutiny. It is also an industry that I have been proud to be a part of for many years. It is an industry that has attracted much criticism – and with a lot of this criticism coming from within the sector. Are these signs of a sector in crisis?
Henry Ford, the Ford Motor Company visionary and innovator once said, “Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right.” So, starting today, I would like to expand the boundaries of believing about Vocational Education. He also said to “be ready to revise any system, scrap any method, abandon any theory, if the success of the job requires it”. Today, VET needs to adapt the ‘WE CAN DO’ belief instead of I “I can’t believe what they have done!”. It is a mindset change about VET from people within VET.
This is a paradigm shift.  The Cambridge dictionary defines paradigm shift as a time when the usual and accepted way of doing or thinking about something changes completely. (https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/paradigm-shift).
It is time for a paradigm shift about VET from within VET. Vocational Education needs to change the way we talk about VET and how we choose to experience VET. Oldhabits may protect the status quo and positive changes may feel unfamiliar and uncomfortable. Fear may tell you that if you try, you will only fail – need to be released – to go – to die. 
These paradigms can be very powerful and need to change. With consistent effort and some awareness of what to look for, VET CAN overcome these. 
Moving forward in a productive and authentic way means that the sector must work to overcome these paradigms. It is important to remember that VET must move forward, although an element of the sector may wish to maintain their current reality. Navigating change always involves a choice — Can or will Vocational Education and Training in Australia step up or not? 
VET in Australia is changing. The programs – with more courses and the courses changing so quickly. The structure – with more private RTO’s and the regulatory processes are all elements undergoing change. Change is afoot in VET. As a workforce we must change our paradigm to keep up because change can be difficult, it can be challenging but it can also bring immeasurable rewards to the sector, the community and the nation. We have to do VET right. 
There are three important steps to managing this shift:
1.      Be brave enough as VET Professionals to remain positive about the industry we serve – advocate, don’t decimate, 
2.      Stay quality focused – know that the system is not perfect – it works with humans (and we are imperfect beings). Don’t get distracted by imperfection, realign with quality and plan to improve things. Improve attitude.
3.      Collaborate with positive and passionate professionals– share ideas, plan workshops, be open to upskill as a trainer and assessor by learning. Enroll in programs where you collaborate with other VET Professionals. Edge towards the uncomfortable to change, talk with others, be honest and open. Be vulnerable and build authenticity and meaning back into VET.
High-quality vocational education and training is vital to Australia’s economic prosperity. It provides the skills and knowledge that students need to make a productive contribution to the national workforce.
(https://www.asqa.gov.au). We have to do VET right – positive change, through building quality and collaboration.