I have been thinking about thinking!
I am not going mad during this “silly season” – thinking about thinking is actually a thing!
So, let me ask you – what is your thinking like? Are you a naively optimistic type person or are you a doom and gloomier? Or, maybe somewhere in between?
According to a quick google – “thinking” can be a noun (a name word) or an adjective (a describing word).
As a noun, thinking is “the process of considering or reasoning about something.” For example, “the team has some thinking to do before the match".
As anadjective,thinking is“using thought or rational judgement; intelligent”.
For example, "She is a thinking woman".
Words that have a similar meaning are called synonyms. Synonyms for “thinking” could include intelligent, sensible, reasonable, rational, and reasoning.
Therefore, thinking about your thinking is a rational, sensible and intelligent thing to do!
I have been working with students in a busy workplace. There are always challenges in workplaces. Time management, person centred focus (customer focus), the technical knowledge specific to a particular workplace, and people. It is crucial that the student masters their thoughts.
In order to be able to succeed in stressful situations, such as a new workplace, we must be able to manage executive functions such as organisation, planning to follow through on tasks. We must be able to think about how we approach the day? We must think about our thinking.
If you don’t challenge thinking, we won’t change and we won’t grow. Thinking about thinking requires us to be vulnerable. To be vulnerable we must be brave. We must be courageous.
Thinking about thinking is a powerful process. It can change the way you see the world around you. AND as Dr Wayne Dyer says, “when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”.
Dr Dyer talks about Self–Defeating ThinkingHabits.
He challenges his clients to examine their own thinking. Here is an example.
Let’s say I am working with you and I can get you to examine the idea or question – what would your life look like if you couldn’t think that thought? Everyone has the same conclusion. When I have really pushed them to the limit with that question, the answer is I would be free. I would be free. Perhaps for the first time. I would be free. And being free… what could be any better than that?
This is called “METACOGNITION”. Metacognition is an awareness and understanding of one's own thought processes.
Google says that Metacognition is "cognition about cognition", "thinking about thinking", "knowing about knowing", becoming "aware of one's awareness" and higher-order thinking skills. The term comes from the root word meta, meaning "beyond".
Metacognitive knowledge can be broken down into three categories:
Those of us who can demonstrate a wide variety of metacognitive skills usually perform better on exams and complete work more efficiently. Metacognitive skills enable us to use the right tool for the job and modify learning strategies as needed. Metacognition helps identify blocks to learning and empower us to change tools or strategies to ensure goal attainment.
Metacognition plays a critical role in successful learning. It is imperative that teachers help learners develop metacognitively.
Thinking about your thinking is a process. Basically, there are three steps.
(Fogarty, R. (1994). How to teach for metacognition. Palatine, IL: IRI/Skylight Publishing.)
WE ALL NEED TO BE OPEN TO NEW OPPORTUNITIES.
With the silly season madness and mayhem around the corner (or maybe it is already here!!) it is important to slow down and take a breath. THINK. Be brave enough to be vulnerable. Think about it. Be strong and grounded and think about moving forward.
“Don’t believe everything you think.” Byron Catie
My relationships are fearless. (MY AFFIRMATION FOR THIS POST).
What a busy year! 30 days until the NEW YEAR.
My business has grown, but more importantly I have grown too.
I have had to face many things about myself that I did not want to face. I have had to confront many fears – personal and professional. I have had to ask for help. I have had to keep still at times too. I have had to move through my fear. I have had to let go of my control.
I have had help though and am grateful for the fearless friends I have. THANK YOU.
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This artwork is a composition from my talented daughter.
My children trigger me. My children, my girls, my babies are now beautiful young women. I celebrate them. I celebrate their beauty.
On a recent holiday, I was triggered. Men stop us in the street to talk with and ask for telephone numbers. Men call out from pubs to them. Men turn their heads after they have walked by. I was extremely uncomfortable. I was unprepared and felt like I have not prepared them for this part of their life.
These experiences are eye opening and superficially harmless. My jadedness has developed from conversations with family and friends upon our return.
I am still having conversations with men who suggest that women need to be mindful of the clothes they wear and the way they conduct themselves. I have heard stories of relationships that have broken down because the male partner has strayed ... but the women with whom he “strayed with” was “that type” of women so the man could not be held accountable for his actions!
I have even been lectured about the abuse that women inflict on men. YES this happens, HOWEVER the statistics are scary.
Violence against women and their children cost the Australian economy $13.6 billion. (Australian Bureau of Statistics - Defining the Data Challenge for Family, Domestic and Sexual Violence, 2013)
THIS IS NOT ACCEPTABLE IN OUR AUSTRALIAN SOCIETY PEOPLE!!
NOT NOW, NOT EVER!
We must be re-educated. Victim blaming is ignorant. It is wrong.
WE must accept responsibility. We must be accountable. WE must SUPPORT EACH OTHER!
A friend introduced me to Catherine Marroitt’s story. It has left me with a passion to change the way we think as a society. What is socially acceptable before is no longer.
THIS VIDEO IS A MUST WATCH for men and women alike.
Share it with your family, your friends, your colleagues. HAVE THE CONVERSATION NOW.
Am I jaded? I would say so.
I found this definition of Jaded in the urban dictionary. I resonated with it.
“A state of disillusionmentand sadness. You see through everything and have no illusions about what is true. So many negative things have happened that it becomes difficult to stay positiveabout what once gave you hope and joy. Sometimes you might think there's hope, but then more negative things happen in the aspect you are jadedin, and you become more jaded. This can be felt in many different aspects: Love, friendship, politics, trust, music, objects, etc.
Actions, people, places and things can all leave you jaded.”
I researched the etymology of the word jaded. Interestingly the word “JADED” is French, but comes from the obsolete Spanish (piedra de la) ijada. This word literally means “loin stone” ultimately from Latin ilia, plural, flanks; from the belief that jade cures renal colic. I am jaded. I am pissed off!
I have not written this to share a sob story. This is not a sob story. It is more than that. This is a sad state of affair. It is worth crying over and hanging our societal head in shame. The difference between a sob and a sob story is that with a sob story we do not change the story. With a sob, we cry and then we fight. We need to work together to build an authentic and meaningful society that is safe. We need to build fearless relationships and social change.
THERE ARE NO EXCUSES.
A few years ago, we were visiting friends on their property just out of town. My girls and I had been away for the weekend camping. We were relaxed and happy.