I remember the day I found out I was to become a mum! The birds were singing sweetly in the trees, the sun shining down … What the #$%^&@ !!!
No … it wasn’t like that. I had an inclining so I got my friend to take some blood (I was a nurse and we could manipulate the system – it was a long time ago). I wasn’t surprised when I got the positive result. I rang my husband and shared the exciting news – he was a little dumb-founded asking “What do I do now?” I laughed.
I had a friend who did not do the parenting classes or read any books. Like a lot of my friends, I am completely different to them. I read everything. I went to all the classes. I stopped drinking alcohol and stopped smoking cigarettes. I ate healthy foods – and exercised. I was going to be prepared. I like being prepared. I like being in charge.
As you can imagine, everything has gone to plan. I could take care of everything and everyone – and I always held it together!! I balanced life, career, husband, children, pets, family and friends…
SO when did you pick up that my writing had changed from non-fiction to fiction?? I don’t remember the birds singing sweetly!
To me ‘Mother’s Day’ is about family and family can be fractured. Family’s have skeletons. We don’t have it all together. As much as children grow and change, so do family’s. I view ‘Mother’s Day’ as a day to remember and celebrate – we have made it this far, so far! We need to remember our journey and the journey of our family. It is a time to show gratitude and feel blessed. It is also a time to reflect from where we have come from and to plan or philosophise where we can go.
But families are not perfect, and neither are mothers. We don’t all have that innate knowing of what to do next. We are not always overflowing with love and compassion. We are human, and that is OK. We make mistakes. We make poor choices and we can be selfish. We grow. We learn. We get tired, drained and sick. Motherhood is like working hard to climb to the summit of a mountain. You get there and realise there is another summit to climb.
Motherhood is not about competing with anyone. Motherhood made me push myself to do better, be better.
Motherhood is a ride. Motherhood has taught me so much about me. It has made me strong and resilient. It has made me soft and gentle. I have laughed and I have cried.
The main lesson I want to share of motherhood for me is about sharing my imperfectness and wisdom – my wisdom fraught with pain. My mission is to contribute to helping people be the best version of themselves. Through coaching love and inspiring human example, my vision is to contribute to the human race – not compete.
HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO ALL OF THOSE IMPERFECT MOTHERS