My relationships are fearless. (MY AFFIRMATION FOR THIS POST).
What a busy year! 30 days until the NEW YEAR.
My business has grown, but more importantly I have grown too.
I have had to face many things about myself that I did not want to face. I have had to confront many fears – personal and professional. I have had to ask for help. I have had to keep still at times too. I have had to move through my fear. I have had to let go of my control.
I have had help though and am grateful for the fearless friends I have. THANK YOU.
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This artwork is a composition from my talented daughter.
My children trigger me. My children, my girls, my babies are now beautiful young women. I celebrate them. I celebrate their beauty.
On a recent holiday, I was triggered. Men stop us in the street to talk with and ask for telephone numbers. Men call out from pubs to them. Men turn their heads after they have walked by. I was extremely uncomfortable. I was unprepared and felt like I have not prepared them for this part of their life.
These experiences are eye opening and superficially harmless. My jadedness has developed from conversations with family and friends upon our return.
I am still having conversations with men who suggest that women need to be mindful of the clothes they wear and the way they conduct themselves. I have heard stories of relationships that have broken down because the male partner has strayed ... but the women with whom he “strayed with” was “that type” of women so the man could not be held accountable for his actions!
I have even been lectured about the abuse that women inflict on men. YES this happens, HOWEVER the statistics are scary.
Violence against women and their children cost the Australian economy $13.6 billion. (Australian Bureau of Statistics - Defining the Data Challenge for Family, Domestic and Sexual Violence, 2013)
THIS IS NOT ACCEPTABLE IN OUR AUSTRALIAN SOCIETY PEOPLE!!
NOT NOW, NOT EVER!
We must be re-educated. Victim blaming is ignorant. It is wrong.
WE must accept responsibility. We must be accountable. WE must SUPPORT EACH OTHER!
A friend introduced me to Catherine Marroitt’s story. It has left me with a passion to change the way we think as a society. What is socially acceptable before is no longer.
THIS VIDEO IS A MUST WATCH for men and women alike.
Share it with your family, your friends, your colleagues. HAVE THE CONVERSATION NOW.
Am I jaded? I would say so.
I found this definition of Jaded in the urban dictionary. I resonated with it.
“A state of disillusionmentand sadness. You see through everything and have no illusions about what is true. So many negative things have happened that it becomes difficult to stay positiveabout what once gave you hope and joy. Sometimes you might think there's hope, but then more negative things happen in the aspect you are jadedin, and you become more jaded. This can be felt in many different aspects: Love, friendship, politics, trust, music, objects, etc.
Actions, people, places and things can all leave you jaded.”
I researched the etymology of the word jaded. Interestingly the word “JADED” is French, but comes from the obsolete Spanish (piedra de la) ijada. This word literally means “loin stone” ultimately from Latin ilia, plural, flanks; from the belief that jade cures renal colic. I am jaded. I am pissed off!
I have not written this to share a sob story. This is not a sob story. It is more than that. This is a sad state of affair. It is worth crying over and hanging our societal head in shame. The difference between a sob and a sob story is that with a sob story we do not change the story. With a sob, we cry and then we fight. We need to work together to build an authentic and meaningful society that is safe. We need to build fearless relationships and social change.
THERE ARE NO EXCUSES.